I love shopping, and I love dresses. After months of “pinning” fabulous dresses on Pinterest to my “wedding dress board” and tagging my gals in countless images of wedding gowns on Instagram, I was finally ready to go try some on. Let me start by saying that wedding dress shopping is physically and mentally draining. The gowns aren’t all easy to get in and out of, they are usually huge sizes which means extra fabric to trip over when getting into, and you have women you don’t know in your personal space pinning you tight. I found a lot of gowns I liked and some I didn’t. I learned that shopping is tiring, but it’s important to think to yourself “how do I want to look on my wedding day!
That being said, wedding dress shopping is also fun! I got to be a princess, I got to be sexy, I got to be glamorous…so many options!
“Say yes to the dress!” And other television shows give you a false sense of reality. They show a bride 👰🏼 try on 3 dresses and boom! “I found the gown”. There’s tears, and jumping for joy, and an entire crew crying with you. In actuality, I didn’t cry, and I didn’t jump for joy when I found the gown. (Bottles we’re poppin’ though). For the brides who find their gowns on their first trip, that is f a n t a s t i c. Me on the other hand: 200+ wedding dresses tried on, 19 different bridal appointments, and over 500 iPhone photos later, I was beginning to think what I was looking for didn’t exist for me. My family and friends who drove around with me all over the state to try on dresses were angels sent from heaven dealing with my indecisiveness, still coming along and smiling with me. We came across some of the sweetest most helpful bridal consultants, and some rude ones too who wouldn’t let us take pictures of the dresses, browse through the racks ourselves, or try on more than a select few. (This was frustrating). I laugh thinking about this one lady who said “I know exactly what you want!”…and reappeared in the room with exactly what I DIDN’T want. I was also told what I was looking for was “Too Couture”. How is that possible? I was very open to trying on other styles, I just wasn’t settling. I tried on long-sleeves, strapless, thin strap, thick strap, high neck, no neck, low back, long train, short train, ivory, white, nude, blush, sequins, beaded, princess, ballgown, trumpet, mermaid, fit and flare, a-line, bohemian, glamorous, lace, satin, tulle, simple, extravagant…you name it. I was willing to give anything a shot because they say “most brides go in thinking one thing and leave with something completely different”.Every place I went had a dress I could’ve worn for my wedding if I had to pick one out. Just because it looked good doesn’t mean it was “the one”. I had called up some bridal salons in New York City because I saw they carried some of the designers and gowns I had liked, pinned, and tagged my friends in. I didn’t want to spend the price of a new vehicle on a dress, but I had in my back pocket that they were there for me to go try on if it came down to it. As luck would have it, I found a designer with a similar style to these other ones I had liked, and saw that this designer was carried in a salon in CT. I called up and they had a dress in the salon that I was interested in trying on. I took lunch and drove down there by myself. With a glass of champagne in my hand I tried it on and I knew my search was over. They say a lot of brides don’t end up with exactly what they had envisioned from the get-go; but I did and it was worth the wait. 🥂